My declaration of self-esteem

I’m away on a course today so haven’t had much time to focus on this page. But I’m determined to keep to my resolution of posting something of value every day for my Pearl Within tribe, so I’ve decided to pass on some wisdom from an inspirational woman – Virginia Satir, a pioneering family therapist whose work was extensively studied and modelled by the founders of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Richard Bandler and John Grinder. So here it is: Virginia Satir’s template for self-acceptance.

My Declaration of Self-Esteem

In all the world there is no one else exactly like me.

Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it.

I own everything about me; my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself – I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes, because I own all of me.

I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and other aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unnfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do – I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore I can engineer me – I am me and I am OK.